Trust yourself because you can only trust yourself. There is no one else on the planet who you will ever know deeply enough to truly trust because you will never understand them. You can only truly understand yourself.
Our culture teaches us that it is ok to tell “white lies” but fortunately you can’t lie to yourself. I know so many people who try to lie to themselves so hard, making rationalizations for every little thing, and never accepting responsibility or learning and growing by making mistakes. If you’re one of these people, for the love of everything that is you, please stop. But more than likely you won’t know because you don’t have the ability to reflect.
Take photos and videos of yourself, and write about yourself as a person, and look back upon these things and old conversations and find the places where you have improved, where you are stagnant, and where you have declined. The body is the easiest example for me because I have seen my own body go through high highs and low lows, but I’ve also made such a leap as a person, mostly because of my writing and am so proud of this growth.
In my adulthood, have been up to 230 lbs. and down to 178, and currently sit at a healthy-but-could-use-improvement 195. I’m very self-reflective and honest about who I am and my abilities and this itself allows for a massive amount of growth. Just 2 months ago I was over 210, feeling lethargic and with not-so-regular bodily functions, and knew it was time for a change. The stress of money, women (relationships), and holding onto things from the recent-past was getting to be overwhelming. Putting my focus onto diet and exercise allowed me to understand these things from a healthier perspective.
Perspective is one of the most important factors when it comes to personal growth, and is very related to this topic of trusting and loving yourself. A healthy perspective allows you to take life’s lessons and grow from them. An unhealthy perspective might reject criticism or make an excuse for gaining that extra 10 pounds. I used to be a master of excuses, but since I’ve been living a life that’s true to who I am, I feel a lack of need to hide who I am. I accept me.
Don’t say bad things to or about yourself. Don’t call yourself dumb or fat or say that you’re bad at speaking in front of people. The words we tell ourselves manifest into reality if we work towards them. For example calling yourself dumb isn’t going to fix anything, discover your precise weakness so you can improve upon it. Say you are bad at remembering names, say to yourself: “I have trouble remembering names sometimes, but am trying to improve” Then take 5 minutes and look up techniques to better remember names, or just click this link because I’ve already found a site for you since I need to improve on this myself: http://wittcom.com/how-to-remember-names/
Trust yourself with everything. There is only one chance at this. Take advantage of all of the opportunities that are out there to find yourself, to find true happiness. Stop talking and take action because with every action you will see so much more potential within yourself. Go and grow. Be easy. Be Smeezy. Peace and Love.
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