I’m so damn lucky to be born into the family in which I was. My family is full of all kinds of people: businessmen, scientists, tradesmen, opinionated people and open-minded people, athletes and beer drinking fans. My mom is one of 7 and my dad is one of 12, and I have twenty-some-odd cousins on each side, and many of them have families of their own. I’ve met a lot of people in my
day between my wild family, school, traveling, and working in the service industry for the majority of my adulthood. It would be safe to say that I’ve had basic interactions with over 100,000 people in my lifetime.
In all of these interactions, I’ve started to realize something that helps me significantly in the way I approach people. Based on the way people look, I am able to approach them with poise or with causality, and speak to them in a way that fits their own personality. And now let me explain why:
I started noticing that people who looked like each other acted like each other. Way too much for it to be a coincidence...
Think about it. Look at a married couple. Look at their physical characteristics and personalities when they are wed, and then if they make it to old age, see how they look and act. I see a lot more similarities between the people after they spend a lot of time together and I believe this is because of my theory. It’s easy to share personality characteristics with those we spend the most time with, and after time it shows in our physical appearance. People have the ability to change over time, and for those of us with insecurities this should be hope. It is for me...
We are capable of so much more than we know. I believe that we are even capable of changing our physical appearance. And I’m talking about more than exercising and dieting our love-handles away. That’s where the phrase “don’t make that face or it will stay that way” comes in. It’s not about the funny face or anything like that, it’s much deeper. I believe that if we act a certain way - sly, manipulative, untrustworthy are a few characteristics that come to mind, which we see without even knowing. Think about it - 5 seconds into meeting someone we get a weary feeling, because subconsciously we know that facial structure. When you’ve met enough people you see that there is a connection between this feeling and the actuality behind that sensation.
A funny way to look at it: I believe that when we act a certain way for a certain amount of time, it becomes who we are both mentally and physically. For example, RBF, which for those of you unfamiliar is Resting Bitch Face. Fortunately, and unfortunately I believe, for these people the diagnosis is usually spot on. We should be striving for RHF, aka Resting Happy Face.
And just like everything, there are always black sheep - for example someone might have realized their mistakes, changed their behavior, but not for long enough for their appearance to change - as this could take years. But there is hope, and I think that this should be something for every person to strive for. Beauty in the mind, body, and spirit. All the way through. Because we are all good.
And if you don’t know how to start, fake it until you make it. Literally. You know who you want to be, yeah? So pretend you are that damn person until it becomes you. If you don’t know who this person is a great way to find out would be journaling.
I also have a theory about those who are born beautiful, because I know a lot of people are going to say that their looks cannot be tied to their inner beauty. I think simply the people who are born beautiful are born with more opportunity for impacting others, these people simply need to exist, just like the less-fortunate. They all teach us a lesson of humility and honor. And the beautiful are also at a disadvantage in so many ways those of us who are less than beautiful could understand. They feel singled-out and different and all they really want is to feel like they fit in. And that’s where they are wrong that they do fit in, but our culture does not teach us how to communicate with anyone, much-less those who are physically attractive.
Oh man I need to ramble about communication too because most of us need so much help there. For now I’ll just say put a little focus on what you’re saying, and how you’re saying it. Are you using slang, does it make literal sense, and does it have a direct point?
I hope you receive this well. Keep it easy, keep it Smeezy!
Peace and Love.
William S.
smeezy.com
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